Fast Running Mommy

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Location:

Provo,UT,USA

Member Since:

Aug 02, 1999

Gender:

Female

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Running Accomplishments:

I ran the Top of Utah Marathon in 4:43 after having my third child the year before. 5 K in 24:19, 10 K in 53 minutes pregnant. Survived personal training from my lovable but slightly overbearing husband Sasha for more than 8 years!!

Short-Term Running Goals:

Break 23:45 in the 5k.

Long-Term Running Goals:

Stay thin and full of energy.

Not be an embarassment to my family full of world class athletes.

Personal:

Madly in love with Sasha. We have been married since 1996 and have been blessed with seven of the most adorable and talented children : Benjamin, Jennifer, Julia, and Joseph, Jacob, William and Stephen.

All of our children have run in at least one race, including Jacob and William who did it inside the womb. I enjoy various non-running activities such as: baking, sewing, playing organ, piano and flute, painting, and playing with our vivacious children.

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Thu, Jan 01, 2009

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My little boy Joseph is turning 4 tomorrow.

I have enjoyed this child so much and am very grateful for the inspiration I received in regards to rearing him. I don't think I could have enjoyed him as much as I have been able to without it.

When he was 2 I bawled my eyes out at the thought of losing the sweet baby he had been. He is very attached to me but at the same time has a strong need to disobey and argue with me whenever I present a challenge to that closeness....such as..I don't know..asking him to put his shoes on when he's building a very cool spaceship race car or something interesting like that.

I felt impressed to go to a parenting class when he was around 2 but it wasn't for him....or so I thought. I thought I was going for my sister, who was having serious behavior problems.

Turns out as this baby grew up a bit he gave me a run for my money I hadn't yet experienced with my other kids. He was..well..horrible. I used to tease that I needed to call the child abuse hotline because my child was abusing me. He would (and still does although it's gotten better) yell at me and just get into fights about EVERYTHING.

The WONDERFUL thing about this parenting class is that it targeted this type of behavior...defiance...before I even knew this little guy would struggle with it.

The main idea that the doctor gave us was very simple and yet VERY effective ( I know because I've done it all these months).

Put the defiant child in the bathroom for a time out.

Anywhere else can become either another battleground for them (the stairs or corner because it's too easy for them to get out) or it can be too fun....like their room.

I have consistently put Joseph in the bathroom and diffused the situations time and time again without more fights and more struggles between us. It's really really worked.

That doesn't mean I've never lost my temper or patience with him but I really believe it's been a lot better. Now I'm determined to take the fight out of him and help him see I love him even though I have to set limits for him. Happy Birthday Jo Jo!

Comments

From Kelli on Thu, Jan 01, 2009 at 10:05:28

That was a great post to read!!! Thank you so much. I have a very defiant 6 year old and 3 year old. They are two peas in a pod, both the babies of the family! So, my question is what if they kick the door or something??? Or pour all of the shampoo out, or empty the drawers, or whatever other thing my two would come up with? Has he ever done anything naughty while in the bathroom? My little 3 year old busted her door down when she was 2 and a half and in a time out in her room. My kids are crazy!!! Do you keep the door open?

Happy Birthday to the little guy and I am so glad you have learned to handle his defiance!! You are such a good mommy, really! We need to start a parenting blog like your recipe blog so i can get my kids to behave!

From tarzan on Thu, Jan 01, 2009 at 10:08:32

Happy Birthday Jo Jo! And congratulations on winning your age group yesterday! Hope you have fun with your winnings. :)

It's good you have had inspiration to get where you need to with him. Enjoy the precious moments. As a preteen Kevin used to trash objects as a way of expressing frustration and it was hard to get him to see that was not the way to deal with it. Maybe running will provide him an outlet as he gets older.

Thanks for running with me yesterday! And letting me talk your ear off.

From sarah on Thu, Jan 01, 2009 at 14:26:39

Thank you for running with me! I think you are too hard on yourself about how much you talk. I think I talk WAY more than you do. I'm a talker and a thinker and I hope a listener...so anytime. How about whenever you are down here to see your Dad if you want to swing by..hold babies..or just talk I'm usually home and always ready for company.

Happy New Year!!

From tarzan on Thu, Jan 01, 2009 at 14:28:50

Thanks! I get tired of being alone sometime. I am a total geek at work and just glue myself to the computer a lot and then run and live alone.

Happy New Year to you too! May 2009 be simply divine for Sarah Pachev and her family.

From sarah on Thu, Jan 01, 2009 at 14:38:58

You are fine...I understand..but what I really think you need is a man..that tells you are beautiful EVERYDAY!!! We only know one single guy your age but he is a crazy race director named Curt Catmull...you maybe know him. He's pretty cute but...anyway...sorry for teasing...have a good one. :)

From sarah on Thu, Jan 01, 2009 at 14:43:44

Thanks for reading Kelli...I do feel like I've been able to figure things out with my kids...that doesn't mean that I don't have to work with them everyday and that sometimes I just need them to go away and give me some breathing space.

I really don't know how to handle kids that get destructive when they are mad except by punishing that behavior too...what I mean is...I don't have any experience with it so I don't have a trick for that. Joseph just stays in the bathroom until he stops crying and is ready to be reasonable. I do shut the door but he is never destructive.

I don't know how much TV your kids watch or what kind but I think kids that watch too much or more aggressive TV may be more aggressive. I limit the TV a lot in my house and when they do watch it is really mild stuff.

I don't know why they have some of the other behavioral problems they do but they are not aggressive or hateful.

They have been airheaded, disobedient and defiant. Good luck...I know you are a wonderful mom!

From Kelli on Thu, Jan 01, 2009 at 15:53:21

Ah, my kids are pretty good! Emma is a turkey, though. Time outs are rough becasue she likes to kick things. She only watches princess movies and Curious George, so who knows where it comes from! She is the baby and her brothers like tease, and she is very spoiled by her one sister. Who knows, but she is only 3 so we will figure it out!!!

All kids are so different, it just takes time to figure them out!!! But we are going to try the bathroom trick with Zachary for sure! It is a great tip.

And, you are the mother of 6 and, therefore, qualified to give us advice! You are kids are pretty well behaved so you must know what you are doing!!!

From sarah on Thu, Jan 01, 2009 at 19:49:48

I spoke too soon LOL...Joseph nearly broke the door down in his time out today.

I'm sure you're kids are wonderful kids (If they are anything like their parents right? ) I think the most important thing is to not give up and be there for them. They are so forgiving of us we really can't go wrong if we just keep trying to be the best parents we can be.

It's funny but seriously as soon as I started coming back to church after William was born every week it seems some young mama in my ward comes to me for advice and they always say I should know everything now that I have 6...William doesn't know he made me so smart all of a sudden. :)

From Kelli on Fri, Jan 02, 2009 at 14:57:27

Uh-oh!! I jinxed ya!

You were smart even before William, you are just getting more and more practice!!!

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